24 Years

This weeks most disturbing news came via a book review I received. As you know my new book “Career Change” is coming out soon, so I have asked some people to review it. They have very kindly looked beyond the typos and written some pretty cool stuff. What disturbed me however was that one lady told me that my book confirmed why she had hated the place she worked for 24 years. To be more specific “I hated every minute I worked there for 24 years.” I wish I had got there sooner. I wish I had got there 24 years ago. No one should stay in a job they hate – NO ONE. You have options and alternatives. Everyone does. I don’t care what the economy is doing, even at it’s worst, you have options. So why would anyone stay in a job they hated for 24 years? The psychology is interesting and complex. I can’t speak about this particular case but I can talk more generally. I am going to refer to an old friend of mine, Estrella the elephant. (see photo below) When elephants are being trained they are initially tethered with a chain around their ankle. But after a few months the chain is replaced with a bit of rope. Now the elephant could easily break the rope but it never tries to. It accepts the tether because it is conditioned to behave that way, even if it doesn’t like the tether. This is one of the reasons why someone stays in a job they hate for 24 years. Don’t let it be you. You...

Hospital patience

I am sitting in the hospital watching the people around me. It’s a long day of waiting. Most of the people here are outpatients awaiting treatment. They come from all backgrounds, are of all ages and diverse social backgrounds. Illness doesn’t discriminate. I people watch. Not because i’m nosey but because I genuinely find people interesting. These days I also have a professional interest. I’m sitting thinking about how our personality affects our health. If you consider the very word “patient” you can already see that some people are more suited to illness than others. Patience is not something that comes naturally to me. Its a personality thing. Waiting isn’t good for me. And everyone around me is waiting. Waiting for treatment. Waiting for news. Waiting for results. I’m aware that my personality is not exactly helpful when it comes to sicknesses, therefore, I began to find out about herbs here and learned how good some herbs can be to prevent certain diseases. For all those people who share my personality trait, making them wait is positively cruel. It’s stressful. It induces stress. Now other personality types are ok with waiting. They are naturally furnished with patience. Patience however, is not a virtue, it’s a personality thing. The amount of patience you have is determined by your personality type. It’s ok to be impatient. Simply knowing this and accepting it will help. Is it not impatient people who try new ideas? If it weren’t for an impatient person would we have bothered to invent transport that moved faster than walking speed? Impatience isn’t always a bad thing. Perhaps instead...

The ultimate test

So here goes. Years of study in psychology and personal development are about to be put to the test. I face the biggest challenge of all. I face the one thing that could unravel me. As I write I am standing in the queue about to try and board a ryanair flight to Barcelona. It would test the dhali lama himself. Wish me...

Email Marketing

I was asked to contribute my thoughts on an article about email marketing for StartUps.co.uk a site dedicated to helping people start their own business. As someone who has sent over 20 million emails (no exageration) in the last few years, I suppose I am qulified to say something about email marketing. It’s something I spend a lot of time on and it’s something I study. If you are interested in email marketing then you may want to have a read at the article over at...

Martin Gibbons Headhunters Workshop

I wrote a wee post about this over at Martin Gibbons Headhunters Workshop but I wanted to say something else about it here. You may be wondering why I am doing a workshop, when I am a champion of remote, online working. I believe the world will be a better place if we all spent more time at home and less time commuting. After all this is how it used to be. In human history it’s a relatively recent thing to split up families all day. For the largest period of our history we worked and lived close to our families, often side by side with them each day. with the exception of war, it was only the industrial revolution that created what we now consider normal; where husbands and wives and children are all split ¬†up, going their separate ways each day, only coming together late in the evening. I spend most days with my wife and son. A least we all float about the same house. And in this day and age, this is very unusual. However I think this is something that should be encouraged. It is how we existed for thousands of years. Up until someone decided it was more profitable to do otherwise. So we sent the men off to work 12 hours a day in a factory. We sent the kids of to school and we then sent the wives out to work too. Call me crazy but do you think this may have something to do with the general breakdown of our society? But I digress. The reason I am doing a...